Is it important to hold promises sacred?

Published on 9th August 2022

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Is it important to hold your promises sacred? ๐Ÿ”’๐Ÿคž๐Ÿป

I know most of us will immediately say YES to the question. ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ

Well, it depends. ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”

Whether it is a promise to yourself or to others, to hold it sacred or not depends if it is helpful or harmful.

A promise to someone to return a favour or a promise to self to be less judging are good and helpful. It increases your integrity and trustworthiness. 

However, there are some knee-jerk promises which you have made during moments of high emotional hurt, which you might not want to keep. 

Promises of revenge, self-harm, punishment or withdrawal from social interactions etc, are unhelpful yet powerful intentions made, and most often than not, wired into our unconscious.

They linger in the background in self-fulfilling ways, showing up in our life and behaviors in 'mysterious' ways..

We may ask to be released from any promises made to ourselves or others in our present, past, or future lives, consciously or unconsciously, that are holding us back from fulfilling our greatest good. 

Through meditation and mindfulness, Hypnotherapy or Time Line Therapy, we may heal from self-love, light, forgiveness, and gain the wisdom to do our best from this point forward to be true to our word.

This liberated energy will guide us towards making empowering promises and those that we truly mean, as we are only as good as our word.

Healthline listed 5 tips. 

1. ๐†๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐š๐ญ.  

When you create rules around when you can and canโ€™t eat, youโ€™re setting yourself up for hunger, feelings of deprivation, and fear of food.

2. ๐„๐š๐ญ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ก๐ฎ๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ฒ. 

When you listen to your natural hunger cues, you will be able regulate your appetite and manage your food intake.

3. ๐๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐Œ๐ข๐ง๐๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐„๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  

Take time to make gentle observations, such as the taste and texture of the food, how your hunger and fullness cues change, and your enjoyment of the food.

4. ๐–๐ž๐ฅ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐จ๐๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ข๐ž๐ญ. 

Labeling a food as โ€œbadโ€ gives it unnecessary power. When you canโ€™t have something, the more youโ€™ll crave and want it.

5. ๐Œ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ž.

Imagine, when you donโ€™t have to justify your food choices to yourself or anyone else. Instead of giving a reason for your food choices, allow yourself to eat food that you feel is best for you at that very moment. 

Developing a good relationship with food takes time, patience, and kindness toward yourself. Allow yourself to navigate this journey without judgment, and take it day by day!